What if setting limits hurts people that you care about? How do you know if you've put up walls of self protection that actually break relationship, or if you've set a healthy boundary that makes relationships safe? Is it really ok to have boundaries in close relationships? What does that even look like? These are …
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Journaling should be mandatory. Like, you'll be tossed into a cell somewhere to think things over, young lady, until you write down the truth that you are deadlocked in eye contact with - write it down wether you like it or not, wether it's "reality" or not. What is reality anyway? I always think I …
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Fall is coming, my friends... and with it the wistful hope of dying things. I dreamed about my sister last night... that we were at a family get together but I spent all my time doing other, stupid things and then realized as we were all getting in line for a big family picture, that …
Let me be clear. My encouragement to you to "tell the truth and say it out loud" does not have anything to do with attacking one another with stored up frustrations. It is about being honest with ourselves first; to stop hiding in excuses and pain, stop fooling ourselves about what is really holding us …
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(For part one, click here) (For part two, click here) Ally opened her eyes. The sun shone warm on her skin, the sand beneath her was her cradle. She lay very still, listening to the sound of the waves caressing the sand. The night had passed and the sky was once again a clear, brilliant …
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To read part one go here Ally spent hours going deeper and deeper into the ocean, trying to stop the ache in her heart. She learned how to dive under the strong waves and ride them back to the shore. She swam out over the reefs and explored the intricate lace of the coral, making …
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In my last blog (which you can see here) I wrote the phrase “...it made more sense than anything in my god-forsaken life” - and I added, “because i’ve been feeling god-forsaken.” I said this as an afterthought of sorts and I realize people reading my blog don’t really know me and don’t know where …
we jump on. we jump off. we scroll. we laugh at kittens and fume at political views opposite our own. we are stalkers of people we don't know, getting a feeling of connection that doesn't exist. elijah told me there was a segment on Anderson Cooper that explained how apps were designed to be the most …
it's not that easy, coming out of hiding. let's be real. just ask the Lady of Shallot. the reason we retreat into a safe little hiding place inside is because the world doesn't feel like a safe place to be. we aren't stupid. we know that when we are vulnerable it will be used against …
i opened my eyes this morning and thought - NO! If anyone in this world knew just how tired i am then they would surely tell me i don’t have to get up out of this bed... ever. but then i think about my kids needing lunches made and that we have 15 minutes before …
