When I say the word surrender, what comes to mind? Someone throwing their hands up when they’re caught or threatened? Someone surrendering when they are being over powered - like in a wrestling match, or when they know they’ve been beaten at chess? Or maybe someone surrendering their life to death after a battle with …
Narcissistic Backfire
Facebook Post - October 8, 2018 There is the truth, then there is how each one perceives it. Which is why other people’s opinions don't get to determine who you are.#loveisstronger #showupasyourself -- Sallie Mosely One year ago today I was facing one of the most important challenges of my life. I was deep in …
Is it ok to have boundaries with people you love?
What if setting limits hurts people that you care about? How do you know if you've put up walls of self protection that actually break relationship, or if you've set a healthy boundary that makes relationships safe? Is it really ok to have boundaries in close relationships? What does that even look like? These are …
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Mandatory journaling and other great ideas
Journaling should be mandatory. Like, you'll be tossed into a cell somewhere to think things over, young lady, until you write down the truth that you are deadlocked in eye contact with - write it down wether you like it or not, wether it's "reality" or not. What is reality anyway? I always think I …
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RAGE AGAINST THE MACHINE PART 2 (THE RECKONING)
When I’m angry a great invisible vice holds my jaw in place - keeps my mouth sealed shut. All the words rage in my head, but can’t seem to make it the short distance to my mouth. I figure that saying the words will probably just make things worse. When I’m hot with hurt it …
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life in bullet points
Whew. I'm glad that's over. Glad to see you Feb 15. I have decided that I don't like February anymore. Well, I don't like it at the moment, and isn't how you feel in any given moment to dictate how you see life? No? Hmm. Grief sits in my chest like so many hot rocks. …
Brave enough to be awake
Fall is coming, my friends... and with it the wistful hope of dying things. I dreamed about my sister last night... that we were at a family get together but I spent all my time doing other, stupid things and then realized as we were all getting in line for a big family picture, that …
Happy Things
happy things my kitten Marble curling up in my lap, purring loudly till he falls asleep making plans to see my family in Tennessee being offered a cup of ice at the pool (they're fancy at the country club) the kids doing their chores without being asked watching my friends fight for relationship - even …
My journey with EMDR trauma therapy and what I have learned so far
Let me be clear. My encouragement to you to "tell the truth and say it out loud" does not have anything to do with attacking one another with stored up frustrations. It is about being honest with ourselves first; to stop hiding in excuses and pain, stop fooling ourselves about what is really holding us …
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Tell the Truth. Say it Out loud
Therapy is like an unwelcome friend that barges into your house at the most inconvenient times... and camps out on your couch. You love your friend, but really? Right now? Just when you wanted to settle in with book 5 of Harry Potter and get lost for a while. I've had lots of counseling... loads. …