When I say the word surrender, what comes to mind? Someone throwing their hands up when they’re caught or threatened? Someone surrendering when they are being over powered - like in a wrestling match, or when they know they’ve been beaten at chess? Or maybe someone surrendering their life to death after a battle with …
Dreamed of Larisa last night. We were sitting side by side on the sand, looking out over the ocean. And I started weeping and begged her please don’t leave me. Please stay with me. And we held one another while I cried. In my dream I wanted her to live with us - she was …
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Letting go of what no longer serves you. There is joy in the unraveling, but also pain. For all of us there comes a point where the pain of keeping things alive that we have held on to and propped up in our lives to help us cope with pain, outweighs the pleasure of keeping …
There is a lot of talk about boundaries - about how they must be in place to have healthy relationships. But there's a lot of confusion around what exactly is meant by "boundary" and how it functions, and what it's purpose is. So let's talk about it. #1. Boundaries Communicate, not Isolate. Boundaries tell others …
sometimes my mind grabs for you, trying to remember, trying to believe that you were real, that you were ever here with me in flesh and bone and blood. and when i get still and quiet and think about you I see your eyes, big and dark with heavy eye makeup that made you look …
"hope: it’s a currency that grows more expensive with time and with exposure to loss." Sarah selah i've always loved plants. and always killed them. after my sister's funeral (a year ago yesterday), i brought home a plant - there were three different kinds in the bowl, lovely, petite pink roses and lush green leaves, …
in remembrance. my best friend told me today that remembering is different than reliving. how right she is. she also told me that apocalypse means an unveiling... "An apocalypse Ancient Greek: ἀποκάλυψιςapokálypsis, from ἀπό and καλύπτω, literally meaning "an uncovering" is a disclosure of knowledge or revelation. In religious contexts it is usually a disclosure …
Whew. I'm glad that's over. Glad to see you Feb 15. I have decided that I don't like February anymore. Well, I don't like it at the moment, and isn't how you feel in any given moment to dictate how you see life? No? Hmm. Grief sits in my chest like so many hot rocks. …
i’ve been feeling like it’s time to emerge from my quiet cocoon. It has been a beautiful, healing place, and I’m thankful for it, but there is a gentle nudge inviting me back into this forum. It will be a year since I lost my sister - february 24th - it’s coming up and I …
Therapy is like an unwelcome friend that barges into your house at the most inconvenient times... and camps out on your couch. You love your friend, but really? Right now? Just when you wanted to settle in with book 5 of Harry Potter and get lost for a while. I've had lots of counseling... loads. …
