We are conditioned to not trust ourselves. We are told - your emotions lie to you, your heart is deceitful, push past those feelings, don’t be so sensitive, what you feel is not reality. My heart rate went up when I typed that last one… what overt gaslighting and absolute bull hockey thing to tell someone - that what they feel is not reality. How on earth are we supposed to trust ourselves when we are told we are out of touch with reality? That we are supposed to accept that there is a separate reality that exists, made of logic and reason that we are not a part of because we have strong feelings? It’s categorically damaging. It is utterly untrue.
The Job of the Good Apple
Woman empowerment… yes. Slaying all the men to get it? No. A new and instantly beloved friend told me to look up Nikita Gill - Wild Embers within the first two minutes of meeting for the first time. So I read it. WILD EMBERS We are the descendants Of the wild women you forgotWe are the …
Joy and Pain of the Unraveling
Letting go of what no longer serves you. There is joy in the unraveling, but also pain. For all of us there comes a point where the pain of keeping things alive that we have held on to and propped up in our lives to help us cope with pain, outweighs the pleasure of keeping …
the Happiness Initiative 2020
Yesterday I did something I think is a little silly - I declared (with great flourish) speech-style to my kids - that May 1st marked day one of the Happiness Initiative 2020. My 16 year old daughter looked at me with big, round eyes and said - "Is that a thing now? Are people doing …
Into the Unknown
Transition out of old, prebuilt places into new, un-forged territory is hard. It’s sad leaving home and striking out into the wild west of the unknown. It’s ok. Take the time to feel sad about leaving what you have known, what you have loved, what shaped and formed you into who you are today. And …
Jesus, Boundaries & the Shame Trap
There is a lot of talk about boundaries - about how they must be in place to have healthy relationships. But there's a lot of confusion around what exactly is meant by "boundary" and how it functions, and what it's purpose is. So let's talk about it. #1. Boundaries Communicate, not Isolate. Boundaries tell others …
Dear Dr. Les Carter,
Dear Dr. Les. Carter, you slayed me today. Thank you for your ever gentle and clear reassurance that everyone deserves Dignity, Respect and Civility, that not everyone is going to be a safe place, but that we can be that for others. Thank you for your encouragement, Dr. Carter. In a world of sharp edges, …
Narcissistic Backfire
Facebook Post - October 8, 2018 There is the truth, then there is how each one perceives it. Which is why other people’s opinions don't get to determine who you are.#loveisstronger #showupasyourself -- Sallie Mosely One year ago today I was facing one of the most important challenges of my life. I was deep in …
Is it ok to have boundaries with people you love?
What if setting limits hurts people that you care about? How do you know if you've put up walls of self protection that actually break relationship, or if you've set a healthy boundary that makes relationships safe? Is it really ok to have boundaries in close relationships? What does that even look like? These are …
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